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75 Gift Ideas for Penpals

Hello everyone!

A few weeks ago, a group popped up in my suggestion list on Facebook that I immediately sent in a request to join. This was Lolita Mail: PenPals & Gift Exchanges. After organizing two successful letter exchanges of my own, I realized that snail mail and letterwriting brings me quite a bit of joy! I am happy I found the group and thankful to the Tulsa community for putting it together.

After being matched with my pals late last week, I started to brainstorm a list of things I may be able to send my matches as we develop our friendship. I thought that my list may help others starting to write to penpals, or even give you ideas to surprise your friends with! Read on after the jump for the list, and happy writing!

Small Surprises for Penpals

Lolita Fashion Related

  1. Brand postcards
  2. Brand stickers
  3. Planned coordinates
  4. Polaroid Photos
  5. Small accessories
  6. Something from a recent meetup
  7. Piece of jewelry
  8. Brand novelties
  9. A list of your top 5 wishlist items
  10. A brand shopping bag


  1. Tea
  2. Hot Chocolate
  3. Coffee
  4. Candy
  5. Chocolate
  6. Gum
  7. Mints
  8. Lozenges
  9. Honey
  10. Snacks

Crafting, Paper Goods

  1. Postcards
  2. Ribbons
  3. Stickers
  4. Stationery
  5. Calendar
  6. Pens
  7. Pencils
  8. Illustrations
  9. Mailing Stamps
  10. Stamp & Ink
  11. Stickypads
  12. Notepads
  13. Washi Tape
  14. Temporary Tattoos
  16. Poetry
  17. Paper Dolls


  1. Postcards of your local monuments,
  2. Maps of your city, parks, capitol
  3. Something locally made
  4. Coins/your currency
  5. Coasters from local restaurants or breweries

About You / About Your Penpal

  1. List of songs you’re currently listening to
  2. Your favorite quotes
  3. Bad jokes / puns
  4. Photos of your pets
  5. Blank Recipe Cards (so they can fill out their favorite dishes/drinks and send it back to you)
  6. A ‘get to know you’ page about yourself and a blank one for your pal to fill out
  7. Your calling card

Just for Fun & Miscellaneous

  1. Keychains
  2. Magnets
  3. Puzzles
  4. Crosswords
  5. Games
  6. Charms
  7. Patches
  8. Pins / Buttons
  9. Small Figurines
  10. Disposable Camera
  11. Seed Packets
  12. Soap
  13. Cute Bandaids
  14. Crystals
  15. Pressed Flowers
  16. Makeup
  17. Candles
  18. Bath Salts
  19. Lotion
  20. Perfume (check with your pal for smell sensitivity, and their favorite scents)
  21. Embroidery
  22. Cross Stitch
  23. Scarf
  24. Sunglasses
  25. Tote Bag
  26. Thrift Store finds

Until next time,

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